A Feeld alternative with a community around the matches.
Coywink is a private dating site and social network for open-minded singles, couples and polycules: ENM, kink, swinging and the curious. If you are looking for a Feeld alternative, here is what carries over, what is different, and what we do not have yet.
About two minutes. A handle is all anyone needs to know you by.
If you are leaving because
- you matched, and then there was nowhere else to go
- Matching is one part of it. Groups by interest and by city, writing under your handle, munches, parties and meetups by city are the rest, so there is a scene to meet people in, not only a queue to swipe.
- a list of desires said too little
- Every kink and lifestyle entry takes a stance: into it, curious, switch, soft limit or hard limit. A limit is said as a limit, and a filter never matches someone on something they listed as a no.
- linking your partner did not mean they agreed to everything
- Partners link by invite, and a couple’s interest in someone goes out only after both of you confirm. Three or more can join as a poly pod.
- you wanted to choose who sees what
- Every field and every photo has its own audience: members, friends, your partner, or only you. You can take your profile out of Discover entirely and still use everything else.
- you wanted to use it on a laptop as well as your phone
- Coywink is a website first. Open it in any browser, or add it to your home screen and it behaves like an app, with notifications.
What you will recognise
The people you were meeting are the people this is for.
- Singles, couples and pods on their own terms, filtered by gender, orientation and relationship structure.
- Relationship structure as a profile field: monogamish, open, ENM, polyamorous, solo poly, relationship anarchist.
- Kinks and lifestyle entries on your profile, each with its own audience.
- Matches: when interest runs both ways, messages go straight to the inbox; everyone else waits in requests.
- A pseudonymous handle. There is no field for your name.
What we do not have yet
Said here so you do not have to find out after signing up.
- A native iOS or Android app. The phone experience is the installable web app.
- A profile importer. Starting over takes a few minutes, and nothing from elsewhere follows you here.
- Paid tiers. There are none yet; everything on the platform is open to every member.
- A crowd. The room is new and real, which means quieter than an app that has been open for years.
Questions people ask before switching
Is Coywink only for kink?
No. Members say what they are here for: the lifestyle, kink, events, writing, or just exploring, and Discover can filter by it.
Can my partner and I have separate profiles?
Yes. Each of you has your own account. Link them as a couple if you want to appear together, or stay separate; either of you can unlink later.
Do I need to show my face?
No. Photos are optional and each one has its own audience. The location data cameras hide inside photos is stripped before upload.
Does it cost anything?
Not today. There are no paid tiers yet, so everything on the platform is open to every member.
New to the words? Read what ENM means, what polyamory is and what kink means.
Nothing to migrate. A handle is the whole first step.
Leave whenever you like, with one page in your settings.
Feeld is a trademark of its owner. Coywink is independent and not affiliated with it.