A SwingLifestyle alternative for couples who have to be discreet.
Coywink is a private social network and dating site for swingers, lifestyle couples and the singles they meet, built for people with jobs, neighbours and families who do not need to know. If you are looking for an SLS alternative, here is what carries over, what is different, and what we do not have yet.
About two minutes. A handle is all anyone needs to know you by.
If you are leaving because
- you worried someone you know would recognise you
- There is no field for your name, photos are optional, and each photo has its own audience: members, friends, your partner, or only you. You can also take your profile out of Discover entirely and still use everything else.
- you did not want your email tied to a lifestyle site
- Your email is stored only as a one-way hash, so it cannot be read back out of our database. Sign in with it; nobody, including us, can look it up.
- you never knew who could tell you were online
- Your last-seen stays hidden until you turn it on. Activity shows as a rough bucket, today or this week, never a timestamp.
- you did not want to be findable from your own street
- City and region only. Distances are city to city, the app never reads your phone’s location, and the location data cameras hide inside photos is stripped before upload.
- one of you was keener than the other, and the profile showed it
- You each have your own account, linked by invite, and a couple’s interest in someone goes out only after both of you confirm. Nothing happens in your couple’s name that one of you has not agreed to.
What you will recognise
The lifestyle is the lifestyle. What couples come for is here.
- Couples and singles near you, filtered by account type, relationship and what people list: soft swap, full swap, group play.
- Club nights, house parties and meetups by city, with an RSVP you choose who can see.
- A venue directory of swinger clubs and lifestyle resorts by city, where nobody pays to rank.
- Private messages, encrypted in transit and at rest, never mined.
- Groups for the lifestyle in your area, with moderators who write their rules down.
What we do not have yet
Said here so you do not have to find out after signing up.
- A native iOS app. The phone experience is the installable web app, with notifications.
- Travel and takeover booking. We list venues and events; we do not sell trips.
- Paid tiers. There are none yet; everything on the platform is open to every member.
- A crowd. The room is new and real, which means quieter than a site that has been open for years.
Questions people ask before switching
Can we use Coywink without photos?
Yes. Photos are optional. Many couples add them later, with an audience of friends or each other only.
Can we hide from people we know?
You can take your profile out of Discover, keep every field and photo to friends, and block anyone. A block works both ways: neither of you can see or message the other.
What happens to our data if we leave?
One page in your settings deletes your account and what you posted. Each of you decides for your own account.
Where is our data stored?
In the EU, in Frankfurt, encrypted in transit and at rest.
New to the words? Read what a swinger is and what a hotwife is.
Nothing to migrate. A handle is the whole first step.
Leave whenever you like, with one page in your settings.
SwingLifestyle and SLS are trademarks of their owner. Coywink is independent and not affiliated with it.