Swinger dating, for couples who decide together.

Coywink is a private dating site and social network for swingers, lifestyle couples and the singles they meet. Find couples near you, say how far you go, and meet at a party or a club when all of you want to.

Start as a couple

Over 18 only. A handle is all anyone needs to know you by.

How to find swingers here

Couples near you: Nearby lists people by distance from your city. Set Account type to Couple to see only couples, or leave it open to meet single women and men too.
Soft swap or full swap: Soft swap, full swap, group play, voyeur and exhibitionist are Lifestyle entries you list on your profile and filter Discover by. A filter finds people who list an entry as into it, curious or switch, and show it to members. A limit, or an entry someone keeps private, never comes up.
People who came for this: Members mark what they are here for. Here for: Lifestyle narrows Discover to the people who came for the lifestyle, not for writing or events.
Who is around: Activity shows online now, today or this week, so you write to couples who will read it. Nothing on the page is made up to look busy.

From a profile to the first drink

Your profile: One of you signs up as a couple and invites the other by handle or email. Nothing links until you both accept, you each keep your own login, and either of you can unlink later.
Interest: When one of you shows interest in someone, it goes out only after the other confirms in the app. Neither of you can say yes for both.
The match: When interest runs both ways, it is a match, and your messages land in each other’s main inbox. A first message from anyone else waits in requests until you say yes.
The first meet: Most couples meet for a drink first. Club nights and house parties are listed by city in Events, and the venues directory covers swinger clubs and lifestyle resorts.

Before you meet another couple

Agree your rules at home, before the first chat: soft or full swap, same room or separate, protection, and what either of you can stop.
Put the rules on your profile. A couple that lists soft swap and gets asked for full swap knows the conversation is over.
Talk as four. If one partner does all the writing, ask to hear from the other before you meet.
Meet socially first, somewhere public, with no expectation that anything happens that night.
Either half can stop everything at any point, and nobody sulks about it.
Discretion goes both ways. You never share another couple’s photos, and you never out anyone.

What we do not have yet

Said here so you do not have to find out after signing up.

A native iOS app. On your phone, Coywink is the installable web app: add it to your home screen and it behaves like one, with notifications.
A crowd in every city. The community is new and real, so some cities are still quiet. Nothing is seeded to look busy.

Questions people ask first

Can single women and single men join?

Yes. Singles have their own profiles, and couples choose who they want to meet with the Account type filter. Clubs and parties set their own entry rules, and listings say what they are.

Do we need one account or two?

Two, linked. Each of you has your own email and password, one of you invites the other, and nothing links until you both accept. Either of you can unlink later.

Will anyone see our faces or where we live?

Only what you choose. Photos are optional and each one has its own audience. Your location is your city and region, never your street, and the app never reads your phone’s location.

Is Coywink free?

There are no paid tiers yet, so everything on the platform is open to every member. If it is not for you, one page in your settings deletes your account.

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Browse swinger clubs and lifestyle resorts by city

Two accounts, one couple, every yes your own.

Start as a couple

Leave whenever you like, with one page in your settings.